3yo hugs me, smiles a bitter-sweet smile, slowly begins to squeeze my throat with two hands & whispers hauntingly, “Are you choking, Daddy?”
(Looking at the home my great-great-grandfather built, that sheltered my family for over 100 years)
4yo: “Where is he now?”
Me: “Well, he died a long time ago.”
4yo: “It’s a good thing he built that house first!”
Judgment is ugly — it hurts people. On the one hand you go on hurting them, wounding them, and on the other hand you want their love, their respect. It is impossible. Love them, respect them, and perhaps your love and respect may help them to change many of their weaknesses, many of their failures — because love will give them new energy, a new meaning, a new strength.